Forty years and counting..How do I love thee

Nowadays where  separation, annulment and divorce are very common, being together for forty years is definitely a call for a great celebration.This coming Friday, my friend will celebrate their Ruby Wedding Anniversary.

carrying the picture of their renewed vow on 25th year of marriage
carrying the picture of their renewed vow on 25th year of marriage

Amazingly Wow and cool! How they made it? I am glad I had the opportunity to pre shots the couple and did some funny chit-chats while having the shoots 🙂 how nosy hahaha! Actually, I am more interested to ask the husband than the wife. Why? Because I am a woman, 80% I would know her answer 🙂 Really? (double wink)

now you know why they stay together hehehe
now you know why they stay together hehehe

Please share your secret? 

There’s no secret, my motto ..”Less talk, less mistake” eight years gap between us, She was only turning 18 when I fell in love, I am older so I should understand. I kept my one ear open and one ear closed.

Does it make sense? I thought being transparent will lead to a better communication?

When you open one ear, it means you are listening to what she was saying..but to close one ear is to let go of simple things that will lead to argument.

What you think is your best attitude that contributes to keep up your relationship?

Matiisin ako at matapang naman siya ( I am patient and she is strong ) at this point, my other friends joined in and we burst into laughter.

Well, I guess that’s the secret ingredient – Fire and water- There was a lot of opinions on the table but this particular blog is for them, so let’s ask the wife 😉

What advise you can give to other women or to your daughter to keep their marriage last?

For me, I think the wife should make sure the house is clean and organised, the food is ready when the husband comes from work and wife should look good as well. Not because you are working at home, taking care of children and the house, you will neglect yourself. The wife should maintain her beauty as well.

I agree but what about the career woman/wife, I don’t think they will have enough time to do all the house hold chores?

Rolly, even though he is the only one working, he helps me at home, there is division of labor.

Yes, I agree (Rolly said, looking at his beautiful wife) It’s good to come home from work, the house is clean and the food is ready and my wife too (wink) She is always beautiful in my eyes 🙂


What about finances? do you have any problem as to where the money should or shouldn’t go? Well, Filipino families are always extended, relatives will be asking for help at times.

My wife always do the budgeting, I provide and she spend it hahahaha Kidding aside, we don’t spend money beyond our capability. We don’t borrow from others to help our extended family. In case of emergency, we do help but when someone needs to buy something, we talk about it. 

Hmm that’s another secret of lasting marriage, no one keeps secret of financial affairs 🙂 and of course no extra-marital affairs!

we keep each other's secret
we keep each other’s secret

Ladies, I would love to share more of our chit-chat but my senior moments has come and I couldn’t remember all, so just enjoy our photo shoots and good luck to your marriage.

5 loving children
5 children

govs and lyn2

beautybeyondfifty bridesmaid
beautybeyondfifty bridesmaid

And for those who got separated, annulled or divorced, don’t be sad, you too had a successful marriage before it ended 😉 Another man or woman will come along, happiness is just right at the corner. Believed and it will happen.



Author: jamilamimi

a mother of two, professionally working as cosmetic dentist, a lover of own perception in and out.

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